Campus Romance, Unrequited
Dating Scene Fails Women, Study Says
By Michael A. Fletcher,
Excerpt:
With 100 women on college campuses for every 79 men, women are more apt to initiate relationships with men and are more willing to experiment with casual relationships, even when they know such liaisons leave them emotionally empty, the survey found.
Where college students once abided by well-known, if constricting, rules of dating, the survey found that those rules are more vague than ever. College women are more likely to "hook up" with male partners— meaning engage in physical relationships often fueled by alcohol that are devoid of commitment and sometimes even of affection.
These hook-ups range from kissing to oral sex to intercourse, the report said. In the survey, 40 percent of the women said they had hooked up with men, and 1 in 10 had done so at least six times.
If women are not hooking up, the report said, they frequently fall into fast-moving, "joined-at-the-hip" relationships with men, spending nights in one another's rooms and effectively stifling all other relationships.
"Young women are trying more and more to act like men," said
Can we as females be players without playing ourselves? I am a classic example of the new generation of college-aged females: I've never had a real "boyfriend" in college, yet I've had numerous relationships with men which have involved consistent hooking-up, frequent phone chats, and even the occasional meet-the-fam milestone. Now that I'm a senior, can I, in retrospect, say that this was what I really wanted? Did I lose more than I gained? What, if anything, would I do differently?
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